Do you find that your professional growth is slowed by your inner critic? Learn how to manage that inner bully.
Do you find that your professional growth is slowed by your inner critic?
Most physicians will respond to the changes of the Affordable Care Act by trying something new. Maybe you're thinking about changing your practice model, or speaking to attract more patient referrals, or creating a podcast series. Then that little voice reminds you that you are venturing out beyond the familliar, where danger lurks.
I've been watching a family of nesting osprey. Imagine if the chicks hatched with inner critics saying, “Stay in the nest; it’s safe here.” Or, “What makes you think you can fly? “ Or, “Don’t jump. You could get yourself killed.” Nests all over the world would be filled with dead birds!
Do not let your inner critic kill your aspirations!
Your inner critic would like you to believe that it represents the voice of reason. Maybe the voice says, “That idea will never fly.” Or, “Who do you think you are?” Or, “That’s not good enough.”
The truth is that your inner critic is more like a bossy child. Sometimes it’s a downright bully.
Letting your inner critic make your professional choices is like letting your child make your vacation plans.
You can manage your inner critic the same way you manage a bossy child.
When your inner critic rejects an idea that could threaten your safety, say, “Thank you for sharing. I’ll consider that point when I make my choice.”
Here are three phrases that balance the limiting messages of your inner critic:
You want to make informed choices as you plan your next professional steps.
Let a thoughtful adult--not a bossy child--make these choices.